If we could have coffee today, I'd say, "You're not alone."
We all have moments when we feel alone. In a world where everyone seems to be connected, it seems ironic that studies show we're more isolated than ever before. That sense of separateness can create cracks that let lies slip in to our hearts.
Lies that say, "Everyone has more friends than you." Lies that taunt, "Maybe you don’t really belong here." Lies that even accuse, "If anyone really knew you, you wouldn't be loved the same."
Can we shudder together at the ugliness of those words? And then can we say together that we won’t listen to them anymore?
You are not alone. I am not alone. Even in the moments when that feels true.
You do belong. You are wanted. You add value in ways no one else can.
That's the way God created it to be. In the beginning, He said it wasn't good for man to be alone. And so He made this world in a way where that never needed to happen again. He created relationships with other human beings. He also promised that He would personally always be with us.
Here’s the catch: we still have the power to shut our hearts. We can say, "I feel alone sometimes and so there must be something wrong with me. So I will hide away until I can become perfect. Then I will reveal who I really am." We can go through a lifetime of church and work and parties this way. Showing up, but never really showing who we are.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Instead we can courageously say, "Here I am. Imperfect and messy and broken. Because we all are. So let’s be that way together."
Is this hard? Oh, yes. Is it risky? Love always is. Yet it's also the only way to dissolve the illusion that we're alone. And to help others do the same. We’re better, stronger, more fully alive together.
I need you. You need me. We need each other.
Adapted from the writing of Holley Gerth.